This is my second wedding. Would it be bad taste for me to wear white?
Not at all! You can wear whatever colour you choose. There are a couple of rules you may wish to follow, however. A second-time bride usually doesn’t wear a wedding veil nor does her dress have a train.
Our parents want to add old friends and relatives we haven’t seen for years to the invitation list. We’d prefer to have a more intimate wedding with people who really mean something to us.
This is tricky especially if your parents are footing part of the bill. One option is to throw a post-wedding party for those you weren’t able to invite on the big day (using venue constraints as the excuse!) Stay calm and make it clear to your family that, while you’re grateful for their contribution, this is your day and you have a clear vision of what you want. If none of that works then you may have to compromise. So long as you can invite everyone who is important to you, will it be a problem if there are a few distant rellies there? If you are footing the bill yourselves it’s reasonable to use budget constraints as an excuse. But if you family offer to pay reception cost for the extra guests you’re back looking at a compromise!
We’re on a tight budget. Must we pay for meals for our photographer, videographer and musicians?
Yes, you should provide food for them but nothing as elaborate as the food you serve your guests. A tray of sandwiches or savouries should be fine. Work this out with your wedding caterers ahead of time so there’s no confusion on the day.
We really don’t want small children at our wedding but some of our friends have them. What can we do?
We’ve all been to ceremonies where a toddler’s cries have drowned out the wedding vows. Strictly-speaking small children should not be invited to wedding so it’s reasonable to ask your guests not to bring them. You can indicate that on you invitation simply by saying, ‘adults only’.
If you know that some of our friends will struggle to find a babysitter, consider providing the childcare yourself. Of you like the idea of children at you wedding it’s still a good idea to provide some care and entertainment for them.